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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I asked for no gifts and got tons and I GREATLY APPRECIATE the people who didn’t bring!![/quote]

Usually the gifts brought to "no gift" parties are random crap because people feel like they can cheap out on the gift ("they said no gifts") while also fulfilling their perceived social obligation.

Next time, bring a card, OP, and be proud that you're able to follow instructions.  Most of the gifts people have given when I've specified none go into the trash or are donated.[/quote]

So you'd take expensive quality gifts then. You just don't like the cheap ones. 😕 
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No.  When I said, "no gifts," I meant no gifts.  Cost is irrelevant.

My point was that I think many of the people who insist on bringing gifts, after explicitly being asked not to, satisfy their lack of impulse control by unloading whatever crap they have lying around.  So that's doubly annoying.  I'm not donating crap, nor should I have to be the one to toss it.  I don't understand why it's so hard for people to just... not bring gifts.[/quote]

DP. Because your kid told my kid exactly what kind of gifts he wants and he is so excited for his birthday. And my kid is very excited to go to the toy store and get the thing his classmate likes.

Do you people ever consult your children? It’s THEIR birthday.[/quote]

Then be an adult and talk to the host: "I know you said no gifts, but Larlo is so excited to get Larla the boba tea kit she wants.  Could we drop it off separately?"
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This would be even more awkward, bring the gift and then say Larlo was so excited to give the thing. It's too late for the host to say no, and avoids the awkwardness.[/quote]

Having direct communication is awkward?  Why?  Your approach - bringing the gift to the party - is awkward AF for the *host*.  I would wonder why you couldn't have raised it with me beforehand.  It must be really hard to struggle to communicate directly with people.  [/quote]

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