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[quote=Anonymous]I'm on of "them"...an only...and this is an odd observation. It seems to have way more to do with college-aged dilemmas than family structure.

[quote=Anonymous]i come from a family of 4 so i have no idea how it would feel for an only.  yes, they actually said that.  you know what was the worst for them?  when they're in college and come back home during the xmas holidays on their break with no siblings to hang out with at home, sure the parents are there but it's not really the same.  I knew several onlys who had the same sentiments.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]right, there are no guarantees siblings will get along.  But i'm not here to argue, and there's no right or wrong answer.  And there are valid reasons to having an only and I'm not disputing them, i'm just thinking in the best interest of the child and what makes them ultimately happy, not the parents per se.  Sure, if having one will make the parents less crazy, happier family all around.  Really?  Lot of only childs i know grew up lonely especially around the holidays (Thanks, Xmas) with no silblings around or in other words, would've prefered to have a sibling growing up.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]when the only at some point will ask the parents why they didn't have another child and to wish for a brother or sister.  How would that make the parent REALLY feel  "because only one was in the cards for us due to stress and hardship or other reasons cited here?"  I'm sorry but if you are physically and financially able to have another i think you owe it to them to have another.  The reality is they need a sibling in this world.   Someone to lean on when they become adults, attend their respective weddings, take care of the parents when they get old, on their deathbeds TOGETHER.

I'm just not sold on an only. [/quote]

My DH is one of four.  Every one of them moved far away from their parents and from one another, as soon as they became adults, to every corner of the US.
They hardly ever see one another and rarely talk to each other.  They are friendly, but not friends. There was and is no drama/trauma. An average family.

There are no guarantees for anything!  You do not have to give your child a sibling. And you certainly should not do it for the often cited reasons of 'giving them a friend' or 'sharing the burden to take care of their aging parents together' . These things have a knack for not panning out. [/quote][/quote]

Are you sure they actually said that, or that you perceived it? I mean, I certainly was "bored" sometimes, but no more than a child with siblings was being picked on or neglected. [/quote][/quote][/quote]

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