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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If I am a guest in someone house I sort of follow their lead.  I do not expect them to not get up and breakfast as they normally do just because I like to sleep in.  If you came down for coffee and sat on the porch I probably would join you...though if you told me you needed to wake up first I would be fine with that

You would like someone who should stay in a hotel.[/quote]

I don’t understand these posts either. If we have guests in our home, we alter our routines if needed to be good hosts and help our guests feel welcome. If we are staying in someone else’s home, we are happy to modify our routine as well. If we are on vacation, we prefer having our own lodging. Is everyone so rigid that they can’t change behaviors for a few days at a time? [/quote]

DP. If it’s someone who is a one-off visit, I will suck it up and get up and make an early breakfast, if that’s what they want. However, we have relatives who stay with us fairly frequently who are super early morning people. I love having them, but part of the deal is that I am not going to get up at the crack of dawn, just because you do. You know where coffee maker and fridge are. Thankfully, my relatives are quiet, we have a big house and they will usually go for a run or walk the dogs first thing, so we don’t have to interact before a reasonable hour.

It’s not really so much being up, it’s that some people just can’t read the room in terms of how much interaction people want in the morning. OP is up, she’s just not ready for a full on discussion. I do think some of this is related to the fact that early risers generally see themselves as morally superior. People who aren’t up and at em are “wasting the day.”  It is interesting since people like that tend to completely unable to keep their eyes open after 9:30-10:00 at night, and it would be considered to be incredibly rude to try to keep them from falling asleep because I was still up and feeling chatty. [/quote]

I agree with all of this and I am a morning person (although I don’t think I’m morally superior — tbh in kind of thing night owls have some kind of super power to be able to handle people after 8pm).  The key is reading the room and taking your cues from the other person.  If I’m up before someone and they come into the kitchen I’ll say good morning but if they just make a beeline for the coffee maker, I’ll go back to reading my book or whatever until they strike up a conversation with me.  I thought that was basic manners.[/quote]

NP. You are an ideal morning person, and we appreciate you! Ironically, I am also a morning person, but I need a full hour of Me Time before I engage. I wake up way before my kids do on purpose, as early as 6 a.m. during the school year, so I can drink coffee, prepare for the day, and be ready to be On. I usually go to bed about 10:30, and as soon as my kids are in bed (about 9) I need quiet time, too. [/quote]

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