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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Once you are married, you should not expect any financial or logistical help from parents or ILs.  If they give it to you, thank them and be grateful. It is your turn to look after them.

Facilitate the relationships in a scheduled manner. This sets up expectations that you control.

I organize a family potluck at my ILs home every month. They live next to my aunt in law. My DH, his brother and his cousin  help with handyman duties, decluttering, organizing,  yard work and car servicing. I have a hairdresser neighbor who comes and gives everyone a haircut - ILs, aunt, children, grandchildren. 
My SILs and I, go over the pantry, medicines, fridge etc, change bedsheets. I provide feet care for my ILs and aunt and clip their nails etc.  Jointly, we have managed to keep our elderly parents independent in their own homes surrounded by family and friends. Even during the COVID lockdowns. We are able to do this because all of this is on a schedule.

I am a DIL.

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You are an amazing person, and it seems your MIL appreciates you, and does not target you - it says a lot about her, all good.  It is also helpful that your MIL has actual friends - not built in groups - the kind that are not for show, and would help in a pinch. It becomes difficult when MIL/SIL are more like dictators. [/quote]

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