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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - read the book Being Mortal.  It sheds light on the medical and institutional way we handle aging/end of life in our country.  It gave me more compassion for my "stubborn" parents who insist on staying in their completely impractical home.  It's their choice, and I now know that there are no perfect answers to these questions.[/quote]

Choices have consequences. [/quote]

That's exactly the point.  Choices do have consequences, but if your parent is of sound mind, she gets to make them nonetheless.  You can set boundaries of what you are willing or not willing to do.  But the truth is you have no way of knowing how she will pass or what the best choice will be.  It's not as clear cut as nursing home good, aging at home bad.  There are real negatives to each and your mom can pick her poison.

It is upsetting and frustrating to have a parent who won't accept help or advice on these things, but that seems to be just part of it.  If you can detach yourself a little and enjoy her while you have her, you will be better off.[/quote]

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