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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think we need to see the note you sent her asking for the favor.
Or did you call her?

I think her offense might have come from the way you asked.[/quote]

I said, "Hey ____, I have a huge favor to ask and you can totally say no. Absolutely no worries if you do!" She said it was no problem and that she would be happy to help. I told her that the door code was still the same as last time and where to find the item. [/quote]

I just posted a few times, but OP reading this it sounds like you were very tactful in your request. She has trouble with assertiveness. This is her issue. She thought it was the "right thing" to say yes, but also didn't understand that it is also right to be respectful. You don't say yes and claim it's no problem and then act all miffed. My mother is like this. Culturally she assumes she must say yes to this sort of thing, but our culture does not say it's OK to then be a B, but my mom did this all the time-do a favor and then lose her temper at the person. This is why I only say "yes" when I mean it and then it's no big deal to me. I say "no" a lot too.[/quote]

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