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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here,

This is the full message she sent:

"Larla, I got the cash app. Thanks. I just want to say in the future, please don't regard me as your errand boy."

FWIW, I sent the cash app before she even went to the PO. I just wanted it to be done so she wouldn't be waiting around for her reimbursement. Also, no there was no implication that she had to do it. I even said in the message, "if you can't, no worries at all!" and meant it because I have a few local friends I could ask. [/quote]

OP iI like that you said "if you can't no worries at all!" It's always good to give an out. I also like that you thanked her profusely and I think it's fine to pay her for her time. This isn't about being offended by the cash IMO. She is setting a boundary. She is saying to stop asking for these sorts of favors. Is this the first time you have asked? If so, now you know, it's not her thing. You can judge and be offended or just accept that boundary. Have you don't favors for her before or declined favors? Context helps, but regardless, rather than stewing in resentment she made her boundary clear. She could have been more tactful, but if you like her a lot I would simply apologize for asking and respect the line in the sand.[/quote]

Just posted, but also wanted to say, she should have just declined because clearly she didn't want to do it. Instead she did it and gave you a guilt trip. Regardless, don't ask her again.[/quote]

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