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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Super immature of a kid for this to matter much at all.  There are so many things that this should take priority over.  Really odd. [/quote]

I'm not OP, and my kid is only at the beginning of the college process, but DC has social anxiety--nothing especially debilitating as far as DC is concerned, but enough that it makes everyday life a little different for them than the typical, more social teen. Even more to the point, DC absolutely requires time alone to recharge after having to muster the energy required to socialize in classes, etc. While I'd love for DC to be more social, that's just not who they are, and I think a single will be better for them in this case. And since they'll probably spend a lot of time in that room, I certainly hope it's nice enough to feel like a bit of a sanctuary.

And really, can you imagine being a freshman--completely new to campus--and having a roommate who just really needs quiet and downtime while you're really hoping for a new friend? Not ideal for either party.

PP, do I think that's "odd?" Not really. Do I think you're a bit too judgy about a situation you don't know anything about? Definitely. (But that's the DCUM way, isn't it?) And did OP say this was the main priority? "It's not the only think my kid cares about, but it's important" doesn't sound like it to me.

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The purpose of college is to expand yourself.  Not to hide in your shell.  [/quote]

For someone with anxiety who is very introverted, forcing them to live with someone in a tiny room will not accomplish that.  It will just make them hide in their shell more.  
OTOH, give them a single in a suite with 3-5 other suitemates, and they will most likely come out of their shell on their schedule---because they have the needed time to recharge after social interactions, alone in their room. 
Obviously you do not know any true introverts or introverts with anxiety. 
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Yes, I do.

I have a now adult daughter, who had / has pretty severe anxiety.   Her college did not have singles, and she ended up with a born-again Christian lunatic.   She was polite to her (because that’s how she was raised) but spent so much time out of her room that she ended up befriending another girl on her floor who had similar roommate issues.  The two became good friends, ended up getting an off campus apartment (with others) together after freshman year, and fast forward 10 years they are still best friends and actually still live together with a couple of other women in a house that they rent together in DC.

They likely would have never even met had we coddled her into a single room when she went off to college.  She would have just gone to class, then returned to her single room.  That would’ve been a real tragedy.

It is no exaggeration to say that had she gotten a single room when she went off to college her adult life would be very different and probably a lot more sad than it is today.  [/quote]

Someone who calls a stranger a "lunatic", especially based on second-hand information, did not raise her daughter properly.[/quote]

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