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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You don't need to do that much if she is in assisted living.  Cut back.[/quote]

It seems really easy to say that and perhaps that is what my distance sibling thinks but it ends up being time intensive. This week:
Monday deal with pharmacy to renew medication, pick up medication and sort it into weekly pill container, pick up snacks my mom requested then drop them off (total time 2 hours from leaving my house to getting back to my house).
Wed- Visit (90 minutes door to door)
Thursday- leave work an hour early to take my mother to audiologist for hearing aid issue (2 hours leaving work, picking her up, taking her to appointment, waiting, taking her back home).
Today- (mother called crying saying she wasn't feeling well and was nauseous and weak (2 hours going and getting her applesauce, figuring out what medication she could take, visiting, etc).

I am not counting the all the phone calls I received from her or the phone calls I made to her. So at least 7 1/2 hours of my time this week.[/quote]

It sounds like you love your mom and you are a good daughter. I think a therapist could help you work through some of the issues you have with your siblings and your unwillingness to spend your mom's money. Let assisted living manage her medicine. If she wants special snacks have them shipped via amazon or instacart. If you don't want to visit or take your mom to doctor's appointments hire a caretaker to do these things.[/quote]

Let’s be real. OP wants as much of the inheritance as possible, which she made clear in the OP. That’s the real reason she’s not outsourcing.[/quote] 
If so, she is only earning a third of the savings.[/quote]

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