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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m pretty damn lucky and comfortable but the great disparity between the lucky and unlucky in the world is what pushed me over the edge to atheism. When I think of the absolute horror and suffering that little children in this world are enduring right now, all day, every day. No way can I get behind the idea that there is a deity that could sort it but choses not to for (insert your religion’s explanation here.) Nope![/quote]

OP here, and: yes! It's just so hard to know there are people in the world who basically have no chance of leading even remotely pleasant lives unless they simply dedicate every resource they have to trying to improve their circumstances. Which is, by itself, such a horrible burden to place on someone. And then if they DON'T do this, people will blame them for their circumstance, like "why didn't you work harder to lift yourself out of poverty/overcome crippling mental illness/get away from abuse/etc.?" And it drives me nuts because the people asking these question so often had so many fewer things to overcome (or nothing to overcome) and are just blithe about what it takes to overcome those circumstances and improve your life. It's just so easy to look at someone else's misfortune and think "oh, they should just do XYZ" like it's easy. It's usually not, and even if you did do XYZ, it still might not work.

It's just ridiculous, everything everywhere is SO unjust. Sometimes I don't even know how to live in this world.[/quote]

NP. It's funny because I was going to post to say that the inherent unfairness of life is what pushes a lot of people to religion.  If you don't see beyond this world, the unfairness of this world will drive some people mad, literally mad, especially if you are an empathetic person.  It's not just the unfairness of my life vs my rich neighbor, it is about the suffering that some people endure, especially children.  I am aware, and as the previous poster points out, that the suffering/unfairness drives some to what they consider to be atheism.  But imo, it's not really atheism, it's anger at God for allowing such suffering and unfairness.  And that anger at God becomes anger at people who can be so gullible so as to believe in such a God.  But I am convinced for those who truly face this existential crisis, there is no way out other than God.  You have to see the world as a prelude to something else and that we each face our own tests and trials and as brutal as they may be, they will be nothing compared to heaven.

What you are feeling has been well documented throughout history in literature.  Look up Ivan's "Rebellion" chapter from Brothers Karamazov. [/quote]

Adding that I think most people responding here are not quite getting what OP is referring to.  I don't think it's about jealousy or perspective.  It sounds to me like she is weighed down by the inherent unfairness of the world.  How we are all of equal worth, all humans, but can be randomly born into such different circumstances.  This feeling has always bothered me, and the randomness of it makes me feel like the rug can be pulled out under me any minute and I could be living my nightmare scenario.  This feeling has nothing to do with not being grateful.  In fact, the more I am aware of the suffering of others, the more I am grateful for all that I have but along with the gratitude is a sense that I did not do anything to deserve it and so it was freely given and can be promptly taken away. Maybe OP is thinking of something else entirely, in which case apologies, but that is what I had in mind when I read her post because that is what I struggle with. [/quote]

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