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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh, well all of you think so negatively about your moms. It's just part of your culture.  It's  all the rage to bring up made up trauma, anxiety producing personalities, yadda yadda yadda. Your parents were fine,  and you know it. Can't WAIT to see your kids in 25 years. Save us all. [/quote]

Was it fine when my mom passed out drunk on the sofa every night for years? Or when she told me she wished she had an abortion?[/quote]

That's not fine. But that's not what OP described. This always happens -- someone describes a fairly tolerable-to-most childhood, says they hate their parents because of it, then someone who was raped by their Uncle with their parents' blessing, or forced to sleep outside under the porch with the dogs, or otherwise SERIOUSLY and undeniably abused comes on and posts about how real abuse is.

Yes, PP, your abuse was real. OP's mistreatment seems up for debate.[/quote]

+1. Why do they always need to threadjack?! [/quote]
Many of us who had abusive and or neglectful childhoods have no one (outside of therapists) to talk with. These threads make me feel less alone, although I'm sorry for others' suffering. Many of us aren't supported by our family, who either caused our pain, suffered with us or witnessed our abuse. Those of us who choose to face our abuse get tired of being dismissed or shouted down, which is what you and pp attempted to do. You cannot determine if op was abused. One thing is certain, her family violates her boundaries and that is 100% abusive.[/quote]

Then start another thread. This thread is not about abuse. It's not helpful to people trying to figure out their lives, which did not include abuse, if the thread gets hijacked by people who suffered serious abuse. Your advice is not helpful because it's not relevant to what OP is describing.[/quote]

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