Reply to impact of Alcoholics Anonymous on marriage?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "impact of Alcoholics Anonymous on marriage?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]AA destroys, marriages believe me I went with my husband, and I saw how the men and women act together it’s not right that a man and a woman in AA gets so close. It’s bad for a marriage. I can’t stand AA. Female women should not be calling other men who are married in AA it’s not right and it should be up to the man the husband to make sure it never gets to that level but they feel like they have so much in common because they’re both all alcoholics. They hang out together outside of AA. And let’s not forget step 13 where they sit there and pry on women who come in there believe me I’ve heard them all talking I’ve seen it with my own eyes. my husband goes to AAA at least five days a week for the last 13 years they believe that this is the only way they can stay sober because the courts or than to go there. The courts are to blame for starting problems with families. Making it mandatory that people who have it a DUI go to these meetings. There are other methods now to get sober.[/quote]

You seem awfully upset, and must be to resurrect a necro thread. I’m sorry your experience hasn’t been good.

I think there are as many individual/couple experiences with AA as their are individuals/couples involved.  Everything in AA is a “suggestion,” but having opposite sex sponsors traditionally is strongly discouraged. The norm is that men stick with men and women with women. There certainly is “13th stepping,” but that is not happening in a healthy meeting because peer pressure should be strongly discouraging it. If your husband is six years sober by any method, that’s a miracle. Whatever “other methods” there are now, AA seems to be working for him in terms of avoiding alcohol. I know it takes a lot of time but the alternative might well be no relationship at all between you. AA might be adding stress to your marriage but I’d wager it is nothing like the stress that would be there if your DH was actively drinking.

As you probably know, is a parallel program to AA called Al-anon, for family members of alcoholics. You might find some insight there in terms of how you and DH can get past these stresses. I do have the impression that meetings vary widely in quality, so you might have to shop around. It is probably fair to ask your husband to talk about the woman issue with his sponsor. This is a common issue and, as noted, the traditional approach is to keep men and women rather at arm’s length from each other.

I hope you can work this out.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics