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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

I am not a troll. I own a home in the neighborhood my ex-AP and his wife are moving into. They are renters. They are moving into the townhome section in my neighborhood. I live in the single family home section. We will be on opposite sides of a large neighborhood in my community.

My husband, ex-AP & ex-AP’s wife went to the same high school. They are all several years older than me. I met ex-AP on social media.

My Facebook was very much private. Deactivated now. My husband doesn’t use social media very much.

Ex-AP’s wife had a brief affair several years ago. Shortly after the affair, ex-ap’s wife found out she was pregnant. There was never a DNA test done on the child, but ex-AP does take care of the child. Ex-AP’s wife denies ever having physical relations with her affair partner. They have had a very rocky marriage to say the least. Part of the message she sent to me acknowledged that.

I am trying my best to feel empathy, but it’s not easy as I’m severely hurting. I feel as if I’ve lost my best friend. I realize I was living in a fantasy, but it’s not easy to let that go. I feel very lost. [/quote]

Yeah, you’re a troll.[/quote]

I'm the poster who called someone (you?) a Troll Hunter because of this persistence. How are you defining "troll" in this context? If you are defining a troll as a person who makes things up to rile people on the internet up, I don't think this fits. There is no reason to believe that the OP is making anything up other than that you don't think the scenario is plausible. She's definitely posting about a provocative topic, which a minute and a half on the relationship forum would have told her, but a topic being provocative does not automatically make the poster a troll.[/quote]

No, DP calling OP a troll.  Someone who makes up stuff and posts it for a reaction.

If OP is so very broken up about this, why is OP spending hours - hours - posting about it? And the extra little detail each time OP posts? The wife tells her about the state of their marriage?

It’s unbelievable.  Not to be believed.

Sometimes I think jsteele posts this stuff to get more ad dollars.  People on this forum love a juicy affair story.  Lots of posts.
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That is a fairly sad, paranoid view to hold.

I think if you look at any of the other threads about people who are dealing with disclosure of affairs, what you will see is that there is a lot of graspy emotional behavior, particularly in the beginning. While I don't support what OP has done, it would be fairly foolish to ignore that a pretty emotionally significant relationship of a year has just suddenly ended. That affects a person. Condemning the relationship is a pretty obvious move, but it does nothing for the overall situation to point out to the OP that she did a terrible thing.

As for the extra detail, I almost added a sentence about this to my last post to you. The OP is over-explaining because you people are saying that she made this up by pointing out "inconsistencies." She clarifies when asked to clarify. She is posting because she's going through a really intense situation and is found emotional support of a sort here.

Jsteele actually talks about this in one of his recap posts that deals with the lady who is trying to move on from her husband's affair. Some posters use this site as free therapy. OP maybe is doing that. Maybe she is just straight up lying about all of it. But I don't see the inconsistencies here that you're seeing and this scenario sounds very plausible to me. The only reason I would personally suspect troll is that it is the reverse of other affair-related posts on this site. [/quote]

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