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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do not have kids with someone who isn’t on board. I have friends like this and it’s painful to see.[/quote]

Disagree. Have the kids. You are already old and not enough time to find new guy and get it done.

You may end up single mom, so it depends on which outcome sounds better — married to man child or single mom dating to find a new DH. I would go for kids. Having kids on your own is $$$$. As long as you don’t push child support he’ll give you custody, natch. [/quote]

Or maybe don’t have kids with someone who clearly doesn’t want them. Sometimes, it’s not about you and what YOU want. Why would you bring a child into a situation where one parent clearly doesn’t want them? That is selfish.[/quote]

having one parent love you is more than enough for a great life....nothing selfish about it....more selfish to deny a life to someone[/quote]

A great life after growing up with a parent who actively doesn’t want you? And maybe the sort who tells you that every day and acts in dozens of ways to undermine your belief that you deserve to exist?

You seem to know very little about psychological trauma in childhood and the lifelong devastating effects of it in the lives of millions of adults struggling today.

Being born to a single loving parent is one thing. If OP wants a kid, she’s better off having it that way then to have a child with a man who already knows he doesn’t want to be a father and may rise up to the significant challenges of parenting kids but becoming abusive to them.[/quote]

I agree with the PP. I think most people, not born in the midst of horrible war, genocide, famine, are glad to be here regardless of how disadvantaged they are. My dad was a heroin addict and we were poor and using food stamps until my teens. But I'm very happy to be here and would do it again if given the chance, even if I knew my dad didn't want me.[/quote]

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