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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can have a blast dating at 50. I started dating when I was 53 and dated women within ten years (plus or minus) of my age.

If you want to date for a relationship, it works best if you match with women with a similar background (if you have kids in high school and college, stick with women who have kids the same age.)

If you are just in it for an FWB (or for NSA sex), it is even better. Many divorced women are DTF and are not looking for a relationship with you or anyone else.

One bit of advice about this, I made a significant mistake in my first FWB relationship. I thought she (my FWB) wanted to hold hands, cuddle, etc. before and after sex so I would do so with her. I came to find out she only did it because she thought I needed it. She was okay with meeting up just for sex and did not need anyone to hold her hand.

She was busy as a single mom working a demanding professional job. [b]She also did not need expensive dinners or trips. [/b]Instead, she wanted a clean, attentive, and adventurous lover.  [/quote]

I had to cut my FWB loose b/c he wanted to get dinner, go to the movies, spend the weekend together.  That’s all well and good but I wasn’t looking for a relationship.  Sad to see him go but we wanted different things.[/quote]

Why on earth would you want a 50+ yo man for a FWB situation? I’d see men in their late twenties to thirties personally. [/quote]

Not sure why would I date a 50+ man in my 40s unless he's into remarrying/long term partnership with cohabitation and merging finances/certain guarantees for me[/quote]

Why do you want remarriage plus merging finances and "certain guarantees"? If you've already had kids and you have a career, what do you need marriage and financial merge and "guarantees" for?

And what does he get in exchange for providing merged finances and "guarantees" to you? Is your p*ssy really that great?[/quote]

I would certainly benefit from a marriage to an equal earner (400K+) and at least 15 more years of building a joint life, wealth, joint assets and retirement planning with an equal partner. Of course I would expect being a primary beneficiary to all marital assets in such scenario. A man either should be able to provide it in his 50s (where they are usually at career prime and make about the same as me).  
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And what does he get out of this?

If you came at me with that deal - and I am that kind of earner - my reaction is "you are primary beneficiary of the marital assets and my kids get shut out? Pfffft, nope." I'm doing just great building wealth and planning my retirement by myself, I don't need to marry "an equal partner" for that.

You may say, why would you marry me if you're not the primary beneficiary of the marital assets? Well, you are clearly [i]not [/i]poor and you will have no problem retiring comfortably if we maintain separate finances.

Getting remarried after you are done having kids is all downside for a man, tbh.[/quote]

SO what do you propose is the equitable thing to do in light of the fact that she will likely outlive him and he will receive her care in od age, while she will need the same but he will not be present to provide it?

Keeping in mind that she also has children, and like you does not want their inheritance jeopardized by an unrelated third party?

Would it be fair to put all pre-marital assets into separate trusts and then leave subsequently accrued marital assets to the surviving spouse?[/quote]

If you’re the woman in this scenario, just don’t get married. You can enjoy the upgraded lifestyle by dating or moving in together.  Keep your assets separate.  When he gets sick, let his kids take over.  [/quote]

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