Reply to After graduation, rent if lives at home?

Forum Index » Adult Children

Reply to "After graduation, rent if lives at home?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I can’t imagine not charging rent (my kid has a decent job l8ned up)[/b] but my husband doesn’t want our kid to rush into an apartment lease. So I don’t know.[/quote]

But why?[/quote]

Unless you are dirt poor, you are a cheapskate to charge them. [b]Why did you have a kid if you could not afford it[/b].[/quote]

I find this statement extremely childish. It sounds like something a high school kid would say when he is having trouble manipulating his parent into buying him something.  Do you think parents expect to foot the bill for their adult children forever?  Unless the child is mentally or physically disabled, this is ridiculous.

I would never let them go without food or housing, but we charged our newly graduated (& working) adult children a nominal amount of "rent" per month which we put in a savings account for them until they were ready to move out on their own.  I'm talking hundreds, not thousands of dollars per month because their first jobs paid rather modestly, and they were "renting" their childhood bedrooms, not a separate apartment. This gave them a slightly more realistic view of how far their salaries would go and kept them from spending the money on frivolous things.  I think that kids growing up look forward to moving out on their own, and that's natural and a good thing. But they knew they were welcome at home and having a safe, familiar place to live for the first year or so helped them transition.  
[/quote]

this seems much more infantilizing then letting them stay for free and save on their own. That’s like how I helped my child as a fourth greater set aside a part of their allowance money each week for an expensive Lego kit. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics