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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][i]Shocked at how many people would give their children benadryl off labe[/i]l. Or at all. Our allergist warned us never to use it because it crosses the blood brain barrier and can cause cognitive impairment over time.

Melatonin is a natural hormone your body already makes, also induces feelings of calm and sleep (if you're tired) and doesn't have the same negative effect as benadryl. [/quote]

Many many psychiatrists will have you use that as a first line of defense. Melatonin won't touch the aggression the OP is describing. If you haven't had a kid like this, you should just stop typing. You think you're helping, but you're not.[/quote]

I do have a kid like that, I'm pp. [b]You put him in his room and sit at the door (on the inside) to make sure he doesn't throw anything through the windows or hurt himself.[/b] You don't react but you do give hugs when he's ready. You do give melatonin and you don't dope your kid up with an off label use that doctors (should) know better than to recommend in 2023  
Ice had bruises and bloody noses from my son. His walls still need repairing. But I never gave him a substance knowing it damages his brain. Sorry bud.[/quote]

This might work for younger children, but doing this would have been downright dangerous for me when my son was going through his behavioral/mental health crisis at 11 years old. He put holes in the walls, broke 3 doors, destroyed so many things, and was physically violent - I would have tried literally any med (on or off label) that was suggested to me, but my son was so out of control that medication in the moment wasn't an option. 4 inpatient hospitalizations over a 9month period of time, 6+months of intensive therapy (3x/week family therapy, 1x/week individual for my son, 1x/week individual for me) and he was finally on the road toward stability, and we could breathe a little each day. He wasn't fully stable for nearly a year after his final hospitalization though, and it took about 8 months after his first hospitalization to find the correct resources and finally get on a pathway to acheive stability.

A dose or 3 of Benadryl would not have caused cognitive impairment to an extent that would have worried me - his behavior was causing so much harm to everyone in the family that the risk/benefit analysis would have been in favor of doing anything possible to bring the behavior under control. As it is, my child is not willing to take medication when he is at a crisis moment, so benadryl would simply not be an option for us for that reason. Don't criticize parents that conclude differently on the risk/benefit equation than you do. They are all doing the best they can with what they have. The goal is not perfection or no harm - its mitigation of risks considering all aspects of what the family needs. [/quote]

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