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[quote=Anonymous][quote=FBO][quote=Anonymous][quote=FBO][quote=Anonymous]Sexual incompatibility.[/quote]

Oh, that [i]really[/i] sucks...  Sorry.  :([/quote]

I think this is really common for a couple of reasons.  Often young women don't think sex is that important and then once they hit their mid-30's/40's they realize that it really IS important.  Also, they don't mind putting out in the beginning, but just can't sustain it with someone they married that they weren't compatible with.[/quote]

Sure, I can understand that and the age difference makes sense.  I was taught back in the day that men expect women to be interested in sex instead of interesting women in sex.  It also ges back to the actual moment.  When you are with someone, too many people focus on the moment instead of the bigger picture.  Think 'missing the forest for the trees'.  Instead, a part of sex should be about enticing that other person to come BACK for more and more.  As a man, we tend to extract the most we can out of that one moment.  But if you want sustainability, you have to be good in the moment while also planting the seeds for why they need what you give over and over and over.

I mentioned this elsewhere but being with a woman is as much a mental game as a physical game, if not more.[/quote]

So true. I had no idea when I meant my husband in early 20s how difficult sex was going to turn out to be. It was easy in the beginning but it is NOT just about the phyical after the first year or two or three. It has to evolve after that, and that takes intimacy outside the bedroom.  Prioritizing each other, not taking each other for granted, making each other feel desired, sharing things with each other. So easy for that to fade and then resentments start building up. It's why sexless marriages are surprisingly common. It's not all about libido in a long term relationship.[/quote]

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