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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you should let her just bunk with you. Growing up, people always said things like this - you'll have to learn to deal with difficult people, etc. Now, in adulthood, I find that's simply not true. I never have to sleep in the same room as or spend any meaningful time with people who are mean/frustrating, etc. I can just avoid them, and have autonomy to do so. There's no need to make her uncomfortable on a vacation - its a vacation! [/quote]

Um what?! How do you avoid difficult people? Don't you have inlaws, coworkers, employees, people at your kids' schools?

She does not have to spend meaningful time with the cousin or let cousin be mean to her. She just needs to walk away or tell cousin that she is going to read a book/lay on the beach/play a game with her parents. [/quote]

That’s exactly her point, she doesn’t have to share 1-2 weeks in the same bedroom with any of these people. OP isn’t saying that her DD won’t go anywhere if the cousin is there. It’s spending the entire vacation staying in the same room with the person.

My suggestion is to go on a vacation not an obligation. Go somewhere where your nuclear family will actually enjoy themselves and not stuck in a crappy beach house with relatives.[/quote]
That is a sad suggestion.  Presumably having a relationship with the cousin is important.  You lack the skills to get along with people, so stomp your feet and don't go?[/quote]

[b]Having a relationship with the cousin is only important if you want it to be.  [/b]I don’t think vacationing with a PITA cousin is an important life milestone.  I manage to have relationships with family members that don’t involve sharing a bedroom.  YMMV.[/quote]

That decision is for the parents to make until the kids are grown up though.  [/quote]

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