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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dad moving does not matter.  It may have been a money or commute issue.  In this area there are tons of swimming programs.  You could find one to work with the current schedule or miss a day every other week.  If you just want to stop the visits then just say so vs setting this up so no way dad can win.  Or, you can drive the kid to dads after swim.  How are you being flexible!   You are choosing activities that happen on dads time and telling him that the activities take priority.   Flexible would be finding a different club to swim with that has better times.  Three day a week swimming isn’t much.  And, right now it’s summer except if year round and at three days a week it’s only year round when they hit the next level group or you are in a private group and you can switch groups then.  Summer swim they can miss.  [/quote]

Just ignore this pp, OP.  I don't know if they are really that clueless, or if they just try to instigate drama with their false statements, but they are truly awful.   They've posted in this thread multiple times and it's the same writing style that I've seen before in similar threads (like the dance dad thread from two years ago or the 17 year old football player thread from last fall.[/quote]

Mom is scheduling swim deliberately on Dad's time when he has said it doesn't work for him.  He has the kids 4 days a month.  She is demanding he be flexible, but maybe there is a good reason he cannot be and maybe she needs to be more flexible.  If she is changing the schedule and he picks up, the simple solution is for her to drive the kid there after swim.  Or, pick another swim.  There are LOTS of swim programs in this area and this child is entry level competitive.[/quote]

How is 4 Tuesdays, 2 Fridays, 2 Saturdays, and 2 Sundays 4 days?  Can you actually not count?

So, your argument is both that kids who swim 2 days a week are "entry level" and that asking for him to be able to swim 3 days a week is unreasonable.  Which is it?

And provide a link to this amazing swim program that has practices for 10 and 12 year olds on Monday, Wednesday and Thursday only.  [/quote]

The Tuesdays are what a few hours after school?  The Friday is a few hours at night, and Sunday ends in the afternoon.  So, that's basically 48 hours on the weekend and a few hours of Tuesdays.

The kids can just miss swim twice a month on those Fridays.  You can drive the kids after swim.  Or, YOU can find a program that fits that schedule.  At age 12, if they are only swimming days a week, they can miss two days a month as they aren't exactly super competitive and it's more for fun and exercise.  There are lots of options but you refuse to consider any.  You expect Dad to be flexible but you in no way are willing to be flexible too.  Or, maybe negotiate to switch the Tuesday's to another day if that works best for swim.  Where do you live?  We can help you look but most teams are hard to get into at that age except the insanely expensive ones that take everyone and aren't very good.  [/quote]

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