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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Logically, it is difficult for me to understand how this works in practice.  What if you and your husband feel that you have the maxium number of children that you can care for (financially, emotionally, etc.).  But if you continue having unprotected sex, even if you use the rhythm metod etc., there is the possibility of having more children, pushing you over your tipping point.  Do you not have sex any more?  If not, isn't that terrible for your relationship?[/quote]

There are many Catholic couples who prayerfully decide that they are tapped out.  They can then either practice periodic abstinence (NFP) or total abstinence.  NFP leaves open the possibility of a pregnancy, but if used correctly, it is extremely effective, especially with our modern understanding of cycles.
 
Of course, it would be an incredible cross to bear.  I cannot imagine.  But NFP is not supposed to be used lightly, and there are many other situations that restrict spouses' access to one another (travel, long-term illness, stresses).  And yet spouses are called to be faithful to one another.

Someone else pointed out that NFP couples face the same decisions as contracepting couples, and this is true.  I did not mean to say otherwise.  But NFP couples, as well as couples who completely let God determine their family, start from a different place.
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How does it leave open the possibility of pregnancy if it is extremely effective. If you know you are not ovulating and you are too far from ovulation to get pregnant, how then are you open to pregnancy when you are having sex? When I went through pre-cana the lady went on and on about this while in the same breath talking about how effective NFP is and how you can pretty much guarantee that if you do it correctly you won't get pregnant. How are you leaving yourself open to the "procreative" aspect of sex if you are only having sex when you know you will not get pregnant? [/quote]

You know, this is something my family talks about a lot.  Fact is, NFP is extraordinarily effective.  So if you see children as a burden, you have NFP in your arsenal of methods to avoid such a burden, and you're right with the Church, too?!  Awesome!

Or not.  When Catholics marry in the Church, they vow before God and guests to accept children lovingly from God.  If their attitude towards children is negative, they are violating their vows in their hearts, even if they do not intentionally sterilize a given act.

This negative understanding of children requires a change of heart.  Sinice effective NFP requires great sacrifice to practice, it kind of has a built-in mechanism to work on couples' hearts. As in, "You are so gorgeous tonight.  How seriously do we need to avoid another baby?"[/quote]

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