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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Contrary to the belief of most betrayed wives who take back their husbands ("he is full of remorse! He's broken it off completely. He regrets sleeping with such a skanky woman, it was the biggest mistake he ever made, he can't believe he did that. He could barely have sex with her she was so gross," etc.), most people who have affairs don't regret it at all (at least according to one study)

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2023/05/230522131322.htm#:~:text=Infidelity%20survey%20reveals%20little%20remorse%2C%20high%20rates%20of%20satisfaction,-Date%3A%20May%2022&text=Summary%3A,on%20the%20psychology%20of%20infidelity.

This totally resonates with me. I don't think most cheaters regret having an affair. [b]They regret getting caught.[/b] They may still love their spouse (or ... maybe not). But the sexual and emotional satisfaction they get from their affair is considerable.

Thoughts?

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This is why I kicked my cheating now Ex out.  He was serially unfaithful. When confronted, he exhibited remorse and begged to stay together.

In the course of the next 2 years, we did therapy. In all those years, he never expressed remorse about what he did to me. Instead his remorse focused on how his cheating had hurt him. He had not one iota of self-insight about why he cheated and how it hurt me and the kids.

It was some kind
of weird performative self-flagellation.

Obviously, after having failed at his “second chance”, I ended our relationship. [/quote]

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