Reply to Who is the jerk in this situation?

Forum Index » Off-Topic

Reply to "Who is the jerk in this situation? "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

I'm Lilly in this case and I had an event at my house a few nights ago. After giving away most of the uneaten catering to the servers, staff, and taking few trays to the local fire station, the rest was in my fridge and freezer. My household staff took home what they wanted the day after the event. At this point, 3 days later, we were trying to corral the rest of the (Liquidy, sauce heavy) trays of food into the trash to toss.

That's when Megan dropped by. I told her I just needed to finish one thing. It was about 5 mins more of gathering up trash which is when she made the comment.

I don't disagree that it's wasteful to throw away food but short of inviting strangers off the street to come in and eat it, I was out of things to do with this food that was quickly going bad.

My local shelter won't take food that's already prepared which is why I took some of it to the fire station for the workers there who appreciated it.

Yes, I can understand that she grew up in a poor village but I guess my snippyness was more of an exasperated "What do you want me to do?". [/quote]

I mean, you could have said to her what you said here just now. Or asked her *in seriousness* if she knows someone who would like the food. Your response just made you sound like an entitled, spoiled Marie Antoinette type.[/quote]

This. We can't know the tone that Megan made the original comment, but it's clear that OP's response was sarcastic and nasty. I think it's obvious OP felt defensive and lashed out, while it's impossible to know how Megan phrased the original comment.

OP is struggling with acknowledging that throwing the food away is bad. Like, she knows it is, and she even made considerable effort to avoid it, but she still wound up throwing away a bunch of food which she knows isn't great. And her anger towards Megan is entirely based on her shame/embarassment over that, and has only a little to do with Megan's rudeness, if you can call it that, in voicing her opinion in that moment.

This is entirely about OP and her feelings about her own actions, and Megan is honestly only tangentially related.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics