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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]4 nannies in 12 years does seem like an awful lot unless they were an pairs. [/quote]

Not really.  Within 12 years I would assume most people move to part time nannies once the youngest is in school full time.  Part time nannies are much harder to keep than full time nannies.  I personally don't know any family who has had a nanny for more than about 5 years, though I'm sure situations exist where the nanny is very loved by the family and they go out of  their way to keep her even when they don't need her for a full time role any longer. [/quote]

It's not about the amount of nannies.
The issue here, the main problem is OPs insecurity and jealousy. That's a BIG RED FLAG and I bet her crazy behavior and mindset scared away the other 3 nannies.

Op you really need to control your jealousy. It will hurt your child even more later on[/quote]

OP here. I already admitted a little jealousy and sadness with re to my youngest child.  Our other 3 nannies left because (1) we moved, (2) she moved to be with her family, and (3) the last (and best) retired.   This is the first nanny who I've had feelings of jealousy and insecurity around.  Some of it is because she's gossiped with a neighbor who reported it to me, so now I don't trust her.  It's also because, unlike our other nannies, she doesn't have friends of her own or close family, and it feels like she's moving in on mine.  Again, never felt this way about the other 3 nannies. They planned play dates all the time and it was appreciated.  I will do some navel gazing as suggested before I make any big moves, but I just don't need someone around my house, my family and my children who makes me feel uncomfortable.  Starting soon, I really just need an after school driver for a couple hours and could use the extra money to hire a full time housekeeper.  [/quote]

I would find someone else due to the gossip and discomfort. Gossip is seriously disturbing behavior that is easy for someone like a nanny to fall into and not see any problem with it.

Looking at your posts, you don't sound like someone who would actually be happy as a sahm though. It probably just seems more sweet/fulfilling from the outside but you already view it as depending on your dh for income which is the biggest red flag that being sahm is not a good fit for you. Does he also have the same outlook on income? It's not a big deal to have these issues, no need to scale back on your career. I would look for a replacement when the timing is convenient.[/quote]

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