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[quote=Anonymous]You’re right, op, your husband does have a boundary problem.. with you. Assuming the text just came into his phone, he could have said “Yeah, that’s Sally, I don’t know why she texted that picture” and then either blocked her or texted back with “my wife has a dress just like that and boy does she look hot” basically letting her know that he’s a married man and doesn’t want this girl’s pictures. 
It’s’s also possible that she’s crazy, but again his caginess is my problem.  I know I’d be hurt and angry if my husband got a text and didn’t explain it to me on a perfectly good Friday night where he and I could be doing just about anything together. I’d be hurt that he didn’t ask me what I wanted him to do or that he was trying to make me feel like the crazy one for being upset.  To the poster who said “he’s choosing to manage the crazy”, the problem is that his management style is coming into his wife’s sanctuary. She sees and/or hears the text come in, she sees what it is, and she can do nothing. She didn’t get to date this girl, why should her husband be visiting his problem.. if that’s what he thinks it to be on his wife not when he can tell the girl to go away, he can block her, he can get a new number, he’s got lots of things he can do to make his wife feel better.

OP, you need to not put up with this. Tell your husband what you need him to do whatever that is. Know too that you can end the  marriage. It sounds petty unless you’ve been there. The big issue is that he is prioritizing another woman’s comfort over yours and that’s not ok. Crazy or not, your comfort and well-being comes first with your husband.. always. Trust your instincts, if you aren’t a jealous person, something made you wonder about this text and you need to pay attention.  You guys also need to take care of your marriage and put whatever effort is going into other things back into the marriage. If he’d spent as much time enjoying you then he did explaining away this text, you probably wouldn’t have posted.    
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