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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“Just in her 90s” is one of the greatest DCUM lines ever.[/quote]

LOL yes but I have to tell you, we have all been exhorted to go to my MIL's home country over the last 20 years because "great grandma is 80...90... 91...92... and may not have much time!

She's turning 102 this fall.  For real.  We can't use all our vacation and travel budget for GGma.

Also, got in trouble for not attending 100 during covid.  Ay ay ay.[/quote]

I did a decade of that for my grandfather. Every time he'd tell me he wouldn't see me and then I'd see him the next year. Every year until one day he was right. I'd love to see him again one more time, even if it meant my house went two weeks between cleanings.[/quote]
Of course you miss him. We all wish for one more conversation or one more hug from a loved one we’ve lost. However, be honest: how meaningful was the third-from-the-last Father’s Day you spent with him? Every time you visit your 90-something grandparent you know time is limited, but that doesn’t make any one particular day that you spend with them [b]the most meaningful day you’ve ever shared[/b]. [/quote]

Is that the standard? "Do the weekly house cleaning unless it's going to the most meaningful day in the relationship?" OP has a situation where she gets her special day. grandma gets her special day, and the cost is the house isn't cleaned for a week. That's a very minor cost to bear.[/quote]
Except it won’t be a minor cost to bear the next Saturday, when her dh goes fishing again because he missed it Mother’s Day weekend, and she’s got to clean a house that’s twice as dirty, by herself, for the fourth consecutive time.

OP your dh had better stick by his beloved grandmother’s side the entire time if he’s trying to soak up as much time with her as possible before she dies. No using grandma’s mortality as the reason why he has to be there, but then spending the afternoon drinking beer and chatting about sports with FIL while grandma is ignored.[/quote]

Who gets to decide how clean the house should be before you get to have any fun?[/quote]

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