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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So that they learn to handle a breakup in a supervised manner & get relationship experience. Am I the only person who feels this way?[/quote]

I will probably shock everyone even more but I would prefer my son to have sex fairly early. I believe it boosts confidence and takes the edge off so to speak. [b]It’s best if he first tries it while still in my care as I can probably make sure it’s done in a safe manner.[/b] [/quote]

How the hell will you do that? Will you be standing over them with a bullhorn, guiding and directing all of the action? Some of you people are twisted![/quote]

Well my plan is to buy condoms and have them available so that he can take them
Making sure he has somewhere to do it (being away from home at times)
Just being generally available for advice if needed, for safeguarding…
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He can get condoms at college. Even when I was in college, condoms were widely available.  If it makes you feel better, buy him a box (but if he’s not having sex yet, it might be expired when he actually gets around to using it). College kids can and will find a place for sex.  More than likely he and his college roommate will develop a system and they don’t need your supervision.  He is not going to want your advice and would probably be mortified at the thought.

Your role is to have an awkward discussion about STDs, pregnancy, protection - its use and failure rates, legal consequences, respect, that sex has emotional consequences (not just physical) for both him and his partner, etc.  Make sure he knows he can come to you about anything if he wants.  Talk to him about relationships.

I agree with PP that the way you phrased your earlier message was really creepy.  You need to be more precise with your wording and DON’t tell your son you want him to have sex while still in your care so you can make sure it’s done in a safe manner.

You might also want to keep in mind that his girlfriends’ parents may not share your motivation to have their daughters get laid young.  Please don’t mislead them into thinking you’re chaperoning. [/quote]

I agree with everything you said. I might not be the best writer but I am not dumb. Of course no misleading of parents. And of course no letting him know that I can’t wait for him to have sex lol
What I am thinking is:
-condoms readily available but I don’t monitor the usage
- careful with high strung, dramatic girls especially 
- never spread rumors 
- make damn sure you have her consent

[b]I am also thinking of taking him on vacations to places outside the US where there’s more freedom and less weight places on relationships, where it’s easier to have a fling 
I was told an all inclusive in Turkey might have the right teen crowd [/b][/quote]

The fact that you keep saying things like this and don't see anything wrong with it is the issue. You are literally lusting for your son to have sex with other teens. You are a madam.

This is creepy. You're his mom. Please stop.[/quote]

Oh come on.
Good parents are supposed to provide opportunities- academics,
Sports, new experiences
It’s not like I am going to hire someone for him
But being around nice good looking girls is better than being around video game playing nerds… it might present an opportunity you know?[/quote]

I'm choosing to believe this is some bullsh-- troll or teenager posting this. Because, man, if this is an adult, you have serious issues.[/quote]

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