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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's about knowing your audience. I lost my mom when I was a kid, and she was 44. I don't want to listen or even read social media posts from a friend, who's mom recently died at 90 -- and saying it was "too soon."

I acknowledge their pain and grief, but don't talk to me about it being "too soon." That's just rude, and I'm not the person  you should be saying that too.

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They're not being rude. It is very selfish of you to not understand that our parents deaths hurt us. You don't get a cookie for losing a parent earlier. My father died way too young and I just lost a relative who was in her 90s. I'm reeling from the last death. People like you and op who WANT to be mad at someone because you feel pain stop a lot of us from ever speaking and getting support. [/quote]

I mean - the OP of this comment is not saying that the people losing a 90+ year old parent should not feel grief and sadness, but rather that claiming it is "too soon" is a bit much (which I agree with). At least on a literal level, anyone who gets to live on this planet for 90 years or more, assuming the vast majority of it was spent in relative good health, is extremely lucky. I have seen similar posts on social media and while I feel sad for those people's losses, I also think it's a little tone-deaf. Ninety years is a good, long life by any strech of the imagination. Even for Queen Elizabeth's funeral, you didn't really hear commentary about it being too soon or similar. Just that there was a void and deep sadness, which is normal anytime anyone loses someone they love. [/quote]

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