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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG, if he brings in $3M a year, then yes he gets special treatment when it comes to finances!

If he brings in $300K and you're a SAHM, you can arguably say that your sacrifices enabled him to go from $150K to $300K and that if you had a SAH spouse and were similarly committed to your career, you could also bring in $300K.  So in that case, you're still an equal financial partner despite being a SAHM.

But let's be real - $3M is such an outlandishly high income that he deserves more say than you in how that's spent (especially if that money is not even spent on your immediate family).[/quote]

Bullshit!!  IN a real marriage, it doesn't matter the $$$ amounts.  It's a partnership and each has equal say.  If you are not in a partnership, then neither spouse should be a SAHP, IMO.

We are worth millions.  I'm a SAHP.  I manage the money with our financial advisor.  We discuss major financial decisions, but are generally on the same page.  My spouse happily pays whatever is needed to help support my parents, as we are 3K miles from them and cannot quickly get there in an emergency.  So we paid entrance fee for a fancy high end CCRC retirement home 6 years ago.  For now they are in independent living, but it's a huge comfort to know they have emergency care, assisted living, full medical care that can be fully managed by the facility should they need it.  If we are traveling and can't get there for 48+ hours, they will be well taken care of.  I wouldn't want to be with a partner who has the money and wouldn't help support my family.  Just like I happily support their family when needed.   However, I'm also reasonable and would never expect my partner to overspend on my family.  They need a car, sure they can have $25K.  But I'm not purchasing them a luxury vehicle---I'm simply getting them a good quality vehicle.  I may drive a $100K vehicle, but certainly don't feel guilty that my kids do not and I have no plans to get them one.  all they need is a good reliable, safe vehicle---if they want luxury they can earn it

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