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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Complain to your husband, not us, lol. [/quote]

I know he will probably let me get my parents the car I want.

I am just wondering about others in the same situation where one spouse stays home and one is the sole earner.[/quote]

OP, you have a good situation. My husband makes high 6 figures, close to 7, but not quite. This has been the case for our 20 year marriage. I'm on the house and nothing else. I have a credit card with his name on it. I've negotiated cash settlements by threatening to go back to work a few times. Yes, my husband basically lets me buy whatever I want within reason and within reason is not a 110k vehicle. He doesn't like luxury anything (maybe it was upbringing, have no idea), but you'd never know how much he makes from looking at him or what he drives or even where we live. Your husband may just think it's silly to spend money on a really nice car for your elderly parents at this point in their lives. Why not look at that as a sign of fiscal prudence. These high salaries can go away at anytime. I think you've got a really good deal compared to mine. Your husband seems to think of it as "our money" particularly since you say he would cave if you pressed the issue. I think it's normal and healthy to have a conversation and compromising on purchases. My DH would never help out my parents like this, or at least I don't think he would. I'm ok with my situation just because I'm a spender and DH is a saver, so it's probably better this way, although risky for me; I get that. It sounds like you have a great husband, but he spends a lot. I know a lot of people that make in the 2 million range and it's still not enough for them, so I don't think 3 mil is "enough" either, at least the way you both spend.[/quote]

DH is a big saver. So am I. We are actually not as big spenders as we sound relative to our peers, neighbors and colleagues. Our kids’ college funds and our retirements are fully funded. I have my own brokerage accounts that DH funds for me. I guess I could always cash some out and buy a car for my parents. [/quote]

Just remember that keeping up with the Joneses is a never-ending trap. Remember who you were 10 or 20 years ago. How would that person feel about your income? Remain grounded and grateful.

Yeah, if you have your account (I still notice you worded it as "DH funds for me" . . . no, which you both fund out of your household income) then use that. I think you should feel emboldened to spend more out of your own pocket if DH won't agree to it from the joint pot. Don't let it turn into something that it doesn't has to. It's fine that he "only" wants to spend $30k buying a vehicle for your parents.[/quote]

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