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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All you can do is support him here. This will serve two purposes. One, it’s fine if he wants to take a gap year. Two, if he is overreacting then he is more likely to realize that if you are not putting up a blocker.[/quote]

This.  Our kid is very reactive, and the surest way to make him calm down and rethink an overreaction is to agree with it.  Kid says “My professor is terrible, that’s why I’m struggling with this assignment.”  We say “yeah, that assignment doesn’t sound ideal.”  Kid says “well, to be fair, it was explained in class.  I’m just venting. I’ll get it done.”  On the other hand, if we argue that kid needs to do his work, then he digs his heels in about how bad the prof is.

It seems like _if_ OP’s DS is overreacting, being supportive will help him settle down.  If not, then they end up supporting a mature decision.  Win-win.

Personally, I would have been a lot more serious and focused in undergrad if I had worked full time for a year.  My dad did full time undergrad while working full time after getting back from serving in Viet Nam, and he used to comment to me that when he was in school, he really couldn’t relate to angsty 18 year olds who were f-ing around in college.  He said that if he was going to miss work to take classes that he was also paying for, he was damn well going to get straight As. [/quote]

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