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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have had 5 AP’s and they were all 18-20 yr old Europeans who thought my husband was like a middle age dad joke kinda guy  and honestly he’s a catch  tall, dark and handsome.  They all kinda think the dads are duds here in the US  believe me — with the apps these days they get their action elsewhere    [/quote]

Yeah, no.  Hot 40-something guys are still very attractive to young women (remember that crush you had on your college professor?).  But if it makes you feel better to think that your “joke” of a husband is really a “catch,” by all means go for it.[/quote]

I kind of agree with this.  Having hosted several au pairs, I would say that the lack of interest came from my husband.  First of all, there is nothing less sexy than coming home at the end of a work day and having someone hand you a toddler and run up to their room to binge watch television and post on social media.  Secondly, this isn’t exactly a NSA hook-up.  20 year olds of both genders are generally kind of selfish and full of drama.  And au pairs live with you and your family, and they talk to their friends about you and your family.  It’s not a one night stand on a business trip where you might get away with it.  
Third, hooking up with a much younger woman is not cool or socially acceptable the way it might have been 40 years ago or the way it might be with celebrities.  People will think you are kind of a creep.

I don’t think a lot of men are looking to give up a stable life partner, some of their income, many of their friends, and sort of generally being perceived as a good person/father/husband in exchange for a drama filled relationship with someone who essentially functions as a child in their home, no matter how hot she is.  
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