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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS12 is facing lots of meanness at school - he is a skinny, not very strong kid and they call him 'weak', 'slow' ,etc. Not bullying, just kids being kind of nasty. He is a bit overly sensitive about it too. I think he needs to practice comebacks that will better stand up for himself. He says he can never think of a comeback so I think we need to practice these at homes. Any thoughts on how to help him build these skills? Or what specific comebacks might be useful for this situation?
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Studies show that come backs are the absolute worst ways to deal with bullying

[b]The most effective way is ignoring it.[/b]
The second best way is being dismissive. As in, rolling your eyes at them or a sarcastic" uh? Why are you checking out my body?" 
But engaging in it just makes it worse. 
Please read up on this and stop giving your kid terrible advice. 
I would also suggest weights training. [/quote]

No this is not true. You are just repeating terrible advice that you believe is true but has proven not to be. 
Adults who were bullied as kids have written and talked about how ignoring doesn’t work for kids.

And to the OP why not go with a classic and help your kid to confidently say “ F * ck Off!”[/quote]

I am a middle school teacher and engaging with bullies makes it much worse. This is the response the bullies are looking for. The kids who engage have a relentless onslaught until the bully tired and needs a new supply. The best is to roll your eyes and ignore or say “wow, you sure are funny with an eye roll”. I had a girl that would always say “do you feel better now?” And you’d watch how uncomfortable that nasty kid would get.

Your advice might have worked in decades past, but it’s not what I see now as effective.[/quote]

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