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One man with whom I had a relationship ordered for me the first time we went to a restaurant.; [b]he asked if I would mind his ordering,[/b] with my telling him what I wanted. I told him, he suggested we add a particular appetizer, and then he ordered. We were at a restaurant where they knew him and were clearly extra attentive because of that,  and[b] it was frankly attractive to watch him act with such easy confidence. [/b]When we next ate out, I was going to pay, and I said I would like to order for us both. It became a thing between us, with the one paying being the one who ordered, and we both enjoyed a bit of showing off as we did it, and joked about it.[/quote]

This is utterly baffling behavior to me. Why did he want to order for both of you? And why did that demonstrate "easy confidence?" It's a food order, not instructions on a rocket launch. I've never been to a restaurant with anyone who didn't have the "easy confidence" to place an order. Unless the bill of fare is in Uzbeki, your average American adult should be able to handle this competently. [/quote]

If you find it offensive at its core, you won't get this aspect of ordering for someone else, and that's just fine. But this is, for those of us who liked it being done, not at all about whether we are "competent" enough to order food off a menu. Of course we are. We do, almost all the time. This is about some couples finding it a bit spoiling and old-fashioned. As for easy confidence, well, you'd have to know the man involved; it was indeed attractive to me. It wouldn't have been to you. As another PP posted above, it depends on the person and the circumstances.

And "Its a food order, not instructions on a rocket launch" rather misses the point. That's seeing ordering as very functional and mundane, which usually it is. But i"m not talking above about ordering an average meal in a regular restaurant on any old night with a date I've just met. [/quote]

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