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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How ridiculous. It would still be bragging if he just said she got a good job with a good salary. [b]Knowing the number doesn’t make it bragging.[/b]

Honestly I think it’s fine to brag about your kids to your siblings. I do it with my siblings and vice versa. [/quote]

Disagree. Giving the number is exactly what makes it classless. There’s no issue of salary transparency for pay equity in this scenario, so don’t give me that line. My sister was excited when both of her kids got their first jobs out of college, and I was excited for them, but would’ve been so incredibly weird if she shared their salaries. Same with the adult nieces and nephews on my husband’s side. Talking numbers would get you major side eyes. It’s just not done. [/quote]

And the "not done"'is what keeps the employers in power. Salary transparency would improve many things and get people to understand what different career paths offer in reality. [/quote]

Please. Take it up with the employers, who can and should provide accurate salary ranges in every job listing. This is not appropriate family dinner conversation.[/quote]
"not done" is family dependent.[/quote]

Sure. But if you grew up thinking this is completely normal, don’t be surprised if you get weird looks [b]talking openly about family members’ salaries in other people’s company[/b]. This would me back away from you and add to my mental avoid list.[/quote]

I'd bet anything you don't have kids. This is basically all parent friend groups talk about! Travel sports and college admissions when they're teens to who's dating who, who's interning where, who got into medical or law school, and who making big bucks out of college. There was an episode of The Sopranos where the 20-something daughter brags at a large table in a restaurant among friends and family about making "200 thou" at a law firm coming out of law school. This is perfectly normal. In America, someone paying a kid big bucks confers status to the parents for a job well done in raising you. Also means the kid is self-sufficient, which is your goal as a parent.[/quote]

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