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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would appreciate mimosas at a kid's party! Some people are judgmental about alcohol being anywhere in the vicinity of kids though. [/quote]

I think it's more judgement about serving alcohol to people who you know are driving away from your home with children in their car.[/quote]

oh bull.  you tryiing to tell me these people don't have a beer when they go out to dinner and then ... DRIVE HOME![/quote]

I think the differences are a couple:

At an all-class birthday party you don't know the drinking habits of the adults.  Someone previously said I assume all adults drink responsibly and don't drive drunk.  Why would you ever assume that?  Um, clearly people drive impaired all the time.  So no, I wouldn't feel comfortable serving booze over a multi-hour party to adults I don't even know and then having them drive home with their kids.

If people drink at dinner and then drive home, that is fully their choice.  In this scenario, you are serving them the alcohol.  No you wouldn't be held liable in most states if anything happened, but it's not great either.[/quote]

I didn’t say I assume all adults drink responsibly and don’t drive drunk.  I said if you’re at MY home, I expect you to drink responsibly no matter who is present.  [/quote]

Is this conveyed to everyone coming in?  How does that go?  At al all-class birthday party for 5 year olds do they sign something at the door?[/quote]

If you read my post, I said I wouldn’t serve alcohol at an all-class party.  And no, I don’t lecture my guests when they arrive.  They are free to grab a beer or glass of wine (or more likely we are serving them).  If someone seemed impaired, I would pull them aside if they had driven if they didn’t have a spouse to drive them home.  But this hasn’t happened in my home.  Does this happen to you?  I’m curious about this line of questioning.  I’ve never been lectured at someone’s home.[/quote]

Your tone here indicates you'd be great at lecturing people though.[/quote]

Maybe?  But  you’re the one who doesn’t trust adults to self-monitor their drinking.  [/quote]

Why are you continuing to act like all adults self-monitor their drinking well???  There are threads on DCUM constantly about people's drinking habits.  It's an issue for people.  Some people do not in fact monitor their drinking well.  Just because you're friends with them and know them does not preclude them from this fate.   That's nice that you think no one would do this in your home or if they did you would notice and say something to them as if you are in an after school special.  Real life is a bit more messy.  And yes, I drink and have zero problems with it but obviously people can have issues with drinking too much, either chronically or situationally.[/quote]

So then just answer what I asked you upthread:  what do you do when you serve alcohol?  You asked me if I made folks sign something.  I’m telling you I don’t.  What do you do?  Do you ask them to sign something?  I’m really curious![/quote]

This is not all one person responding to you.  I made the comment about signing something.  It was sarcasm meant to convey it is an absurd concept to expect or assume we can control or know how adults drinking in our home will behave or act so it's a risk we take on some level when we serve alcohol in our home.  Which, yes I serve alcohol.

Of course I don't ask anyone to sign anything.  But I also don't "expect everyone to drink responsibly".  I hope they will and know they might not and if they don't it will be dealt with.  You've never had anyone over indulge in your home?[/quote]

To be totally honest, I don’t think someone has driven drunk after leaving my house.  Typically one spouse sticks to 1 or 2 beers, or people walk or take Uber.  We don’t throw “ragers,” it’s typically a dinner party.  If I thought someone overindulged before driving I would handle it.  Nobody takes a breathalyzer before leaving our home, but this is my experience.[/quote]

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