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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a middle aged man and I've dated a few women like this.  I don't exactly know why, but women like this are sometimes drawn to me. 
I guess I'm respectful and easy to talk to.  Every woman like this is unique, but I've noticed some common qualities in most of them.

First, they are very anxious and hate to have disorder in their lives.  They are not only good at work but they are good in a very particular way.  They get lots of things done and their bosses love to pile on more work.  Their personal lives are orderly too.

Second, and this is related, they dread messy breakups.  They especially fear being dumped themselves.

Third, they tend to keep their sexual feelings under wraps.  If they are comfortable they can be very passionate in bed but they don't spend much time thinking about or wanting sex.  They don't feel the need to touch themselves much, if ever.  And when they actually feel physically passionate they may be embarrassed about it or feel very vulnerable about it.

Fourth, they are usually viscerally repulsed by idiotic male traits (being pompous, etc.).

I know this describes quite a few women but I've seen these qualities a lot in beautiful women who have had very few romantic experiences.[/quote]

Hahaha, as one of these women I think you've got it right.  I'm queer and usually align myself on the asexual spectrum because I just don't think about sex very much.  I don't mind it but it's not necessary for my daily life so lack of sex doesn't motivate me to push through the messiness to find a relationship.  And as others have said, once you get used to living alone/being single especially if you're happy that way, it's really hard to be excited about the compromise required for a committed relationship.  I'm not lonely -- I'm an introvert and have a lot of good friends, single and partnered, and am close with my family -- and I don't think my long term happiness relies on finding a partner so I'm also not on dating apps which makes the likelihood of ending up in a relationship pretty unlikely.  I feel like relationships, like having kids, is something you should REALLY want and thus be willing to dedicate a lot of your time and emotional energy to if you're going to go for it.  And I don't really want it; I'm just meh about it.[/quote]

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