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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP.  I can relate in two situations in my life.

As a child, I was abused by my foster brother.  This happened 35 years ago or so, and I am still "consumed" by it.  Not all the time - I have a happy loving marriage, kids, career and a beautiful life.  But I completely understand the notion that some things will always be with us.  I've spent thousands of dollars on therapy, but really all the therapist can do is say, yes, that happened; no, that wasn't your fault and wasn't fair.  The anger is still there, but it's not even anger anymore.  It's just acceptance that I will always bear this thing - which I had no control over.  I sometimes fantasize if my family all died in a car accident and I had nothing to live for, I'd hunt him down and murder him.

I had a very dysfunctional family life growing up but I have overcome it.  A few years ago, a few family members did me DIRTY.  Like, they did me really really wrong.  I now have no family beyond my wonderful little husband, kids and in laws.  I sometimes get angry with what those people did, but I just look at my beautiful life and remind myself, I am SO MUCH better off without mentally ill, unhappy, cruel people in my life.  I am protecting my children from their influence, and that pride and sense of purpose beats out any residual anger/hurt.

Lastly, if this is a narciscist situation - I had an experience with one of those too!  The good news is that no one can spot a narciscist as well as a previous victim. So take some PRIDE that you are no longer associated with this person and that your vigilance will prevent you from ever falling victim to one again.

You ARE worthy.  You ARE special.  I am glad you are here, and I am glad I am here, and I am proud of what we have overcome.[/quote]

OP here, and thank you. So sorry for what you have been through but thank you for the kind words and hope. I am glad I'm here too and I'm glad you are here too. Peace, friend.[/quote]

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