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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm in the "Hi - how are you?" camp. Just wave, smile, and keep it moving. You can't go wrong:

If she ghosted you because she was dealing with problems in her life, you are still being pleasant.

If she ghosted you because she's a snob, you are showing you don't care.

Do not mention getting together. If she brings it up in a fake way ("we need to get together!"), just be vague back to her ("I know, right? Life is so crazy busy.") You don't need fake people in your life. [/quote]

I would be direct if she says we should get together.  I don’t k ow why people on this board are so scared to call out bad behavior.  Tell her that she ghosted you several times last summer with no excuse and you’d rather not get together with people who are rude like that.  And then just walk off.  Hands clean, direct, honest, and simple.  [/quote]

Someone did that to me and I'll tell you why not to do it - because you don't know what was going on in her life at the time. I had family stuff happening, work was extremely stressful, and I was basically falling apart at the time I let the ball drop on lunch plans. Be a gd grownup and realize that people have things in their life more important than getting tea with you in July. Someone who says this sounds like a self-absorbed tw*t. That's someone I will never pass a job opportunity along to, will never suggest for a position on a board, will never set up with other friends, etc.

Your potshot isn't worth making yourself seem that self-absorbed and insufferable. We're not sisters where if we don't get lunch for six months it's THE WORLD ENDING. We're people who knew each other well enough to try to get together, and didn't know each other well enough that if you're feeling weird about how something's going, you can just pick up the phone and say: Hey, what's going on? Is everything ok?

Don't be a dramatic idiot. Just be a normal person who keeps things in perspective. [/quote]

Meh, we all have sh-- going on. Big, little, comes and goes . . . It takes 2 seconds to send a text, whether that's in the moment of plans being scheduled or some time afterwards ("sorry I bailed a few weeks ago. I had a lot of stuff going on. Sorry, Hope to see you soon.") It is the very rare instance you cannot do that.

I can't stand it when people use "busy" or "life happens" as an excuse to be rude. Oh really? YOU'RE BUSY? Whew. You must be the only one.  :roll: 
Everyone's busy. Everyone.

Be rude or don't be rude. Just don't expect to keep doing that, and then ghost me, and expect we're going to be fine. We're not. And it's fine if you don't care. Either way, it's a win for me since you showed me who you are and how much you value me as a friend. As they say, when people show you who they are, believe them. And I do. [/quote]

Seriously, grow up. [/quote]

You first. [/quote]

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