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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Age 35-45 for a lot of people is when - 
Drs finish residency and specialty training. 
Lawyers and consultants make Director / Partner - or know they won’t take that path.
PhDs finish post-docs and fellowships and get a well paying job. 
GS15s decide to go to non-fed industry jobs. 
Stock options vest, 
Couples know how many kids they will have. 
The highest daycare and nanny bills dwindle down to after school care and some camps. 
The student loans are paid off.
Parents start dying and leaving inheritance.

If just a few of these things are true, it can seem like a family’s finances change overnight. In a 5 year span, our HHI went from $200k to $300k, my company’s stock doubled, and our childcare bills went from $50k/yr to $20k/yr. [/quote]

Yeah this is all true. In the past 3 years alone, SO and I (ages 37 and 39) finished paying off his grad school loans; each got significantly higher-paying jobs; stopped paying for daycare for our two kids; and my grandparents passed and I inherited about $500k. I didn't really plan for all of those things to happen at once, but they did - and at the same time that the market was doing really well. I'm still reeling a little bit from all of the changes. We're not in the Big Law salary realm, but we are actually very, very comfortable, for the first time in our adult lives. But a decade+ of pinching pennies has left me unable to loosen the reigns, and so as a result we are just stuffing our savings accounts.

It also comes at the time that we're outgrowing our starter house, and now as we think about our next home, we're realizing that we're positioned to make a bigger lifestyle change than we had imagined. So I can imagine that maybe in 2 years or so, we'll be the ones moving into an expensive neighborhood and our friends will be wondering when and how this happened.

We're not, like, private school rich. But I do think we'll be looking at houses in the $1.5m+ range, and doing maybe 1-2 overseas trips per year. And those two things alone are both big changes from our lives to date, and honestly probably out of reach for many of our friends who work in nonprofits or government jobs. [/quote]

Your friends would have to be pretty poor to be wondrous of a 1.5-2m house in this area.[/quote]

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