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[quote=Anonymous]I know what you’re talking about OP. The friends I know who are doing well either a) work in fields like big law, tech, or finance; b) have family money (trusts/inheritances/financial gifts each year/kids college paid for by grandparents, etc.), or c) are on their second career in the 40s. I know quite a few people who started with the military or the higher levels of law enforcement who are eligible for retirement after 20 years. They then collect their pensions and go into some new field where they’re fairly sought after because they were pretty high ranking.

Maybe there are other variations out there like picking the right stocks or getting in on the ground level of a booming startup. But the three I mentioned above are what I see the most.

When the envy bug hits me (because let’s be real, I’m human) I focus on the fact that they are in fields I have no interest in. I have zero desire to work crazy hours, I made the choice to have a flexible, secure job so I could volunteer at my kids’ school, be home to meet the school bus, and so on. Flexibility is its own perk. Also, our friends in tech seem to work a boom and bust life. I’ve seen some go through multiple lay offs and periods of unemployment when things go sour. DH and I don’t have the risk tolerance for that. And well, family money would be nice but I love my family. Can’t say I’d be better off if they were gone and left me everything. I am blessed that my kids have involved grandparents even if they can’t fund private school tuition.

There’s pros and cons to everything, so it helps to focus on the things you do have even if non-monetary. [/quote]

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