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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We  are going to retire at 70 - DH and I both have cerebral jobs. We are going to sell our house and move in with our son - he and his wife have an inlaw apartment that is a perfect size for what DH and I want in an older stage of life. Their house is in a great area with tons to do, good hospitals and we are active people who hopefully won't have mobility issues. Our two DD's live ten minutes and a half hour from DS so we'll be pretty close to all the kids. [/quote]

Gosh sounds enmeshed.  Anyone else have tips without mental health baggage?[/quote]

Not sure why you think that. We'll have our own entrance, and own kitchen and living space. It's like an apartment that's attached to his house. We get along very nicely with all our kids and we all enjoy spending time together. Dh and I have couple friends and our own friends. We each volunteer and have hobbies. We'll have plenty of time for all that plus for our kids. Right now they rent out the apartment. When we are a year or six months away from moving in, they're going to do some upgrades. [/quote]

I don't know why everyone is giving you such a hard time. I think this sounds great. (I'm the kid, not the parent. I would be happy if my in laws did this, too, not just my own parents.)[/quote]

I am the poster who said above that I have a great relationship with my parents but would still never do this. Have you actually experienced living with your parents, as an adult with your own spouse and children, for an extended period of time? We did this during Covid - stayed in the same (large) house - and it drove me crazy after a month![/quote]

We have an in-law suite and our parents stayed there for 9 months between when they sold their house and their new one was built.  It was lovely! We were all very clear on boundaries--they wouldn't just come up into our portion of the house unexpectedly and we (even the kids) wouldn't go into their suite without notice--so no 'just knocking' on their door or whatever---we would just text a lot. They had their own entrance/kitchen/bathroom/sitting room and car.  I could easily do it again.[/quote]

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