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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For the same reason people are annoyed when other women lose weight, go vegan, run a marathon, or any other number of things that take some effort and planning over a sustained period of time. It’s something most people CAN do, and most people choose not to.

A lot people are insecure about their choices and react defensively when other people make different choices because they don’t understand the difference between people living out their own adventure around them and people living AT them. They assume someone having a positive experience with their own different choice somehow negates or minimizes their own positive experience with their choice. Similar to marathon running or your new diet, if you don’t make it your whole personality, it shouldn’t be an issue. [/quote]

Lol you think an unmedicated birth is some accomplishment comparable to a marathon.[/quote]

For many people it’s a choice that they spend months doing squats and yoga, practicing meditation, and preparing for. Just like a marathon - most people can do it if they choose to spend their time and energy that way. And just like a marathon, not everyone who starts finishes. 
But that’s not the point.

The point is why do you care how I spend my time? Why does it make you angry if I chose to give birth differently than you did? [/quote]

Because I didn’t get a choice. I meditated and practiced and my body didn’t perform because giving birth is a bodily function like pooping or vomiting, it’s involuntary and not something you can control mentally and not the same as an athletic performance you train for. But sanctimonious women such as yourself like to use it to validate yourselves as though your effort and preparation was the sole factor in your success instead of the million factors that just happened to fall your way like baby’s size, position, pelvic bone anatomy, age, collagen type, tailbone position, stretch of your pelvic floor muscles, contraction strength, baby’s tolerance of labor, baby’s heart rate, not getting an infection, contraction strength, not bleeding to death, etc. [/quote]

Yup, all of this*.  It’s the height of arrogance to assume that childbirth is entirely within your control - and, IME, women who choose to deliver unmedicated often have that belief.  There’s a crap ton of luck involved.

*there’s a crap ton of luck involved in athletic performance, too, at least in being very successful at it.  Plenty of people train hard and don’t win, often for reasons outside of their control.[/quote]

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