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I recognize the capitalized use of “nirvana” in previous posts. Of course you can move; many people do, and without so much handwringing. 
But if you are who I think you are, this is about your own feelings of inadequacy and like the school is not doing enough for your $$$. That’s not how that works here. 
If you move your kid to a public you’ll improve your admission chances, according to dcum. So go for it, but be honest why. I doubt there’s a school that would satisfy Mrs. Bucket here. 
Half your post wasn’t even asking any question just smearing the Big3 and without telling why. Gross.

Um  Op Here.  I have no idea who you think I am and  what you are talking about with Nirvana. Sorry for capitalizing nirvana I was typing on a phone.Its has ZERO to do with college admissions chances. The kid's college chances would be WORSE if they left in 12th- which is why I posted that we feel stuck.  I'm not biting and getting specific which I know makes it difficult too give advice but it really would be identifying.

to the other PP  I have a bunch of parent friends at the school. . We like the parents. It has nothing to do with that.

I don't know why people are convinced they know things they don't and are so hostile. I'm really asking other parents in the same situation if they would suck it up and stay. It costs a lot for our family and doesn't feel good to be making [b]major financial investment[/b]s in something we no longer believe in. If this was 6th grade, 8th grade - no brainer we would be out. But I am hearing loud and clear that short of it becoming intolerable for our child, which its not, we need to stay.
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OP - I said earlier that I think you should stay because younger is happy and older will be senior. I also do not like our HS (and feel your pain) but I have always separated that from the financial cost.  We decided to choose private as the right choice for our child's education. Part of that choice was whether we were willing to pay the price.  Over time, I've seen families get themselves in a bad spot when they start trying to equate the cost of private with expectations to get something in return. Or questioning whether they are getting $50K/yr worth of "something". It is much healthier to decide whether private is what you want for your child and then live with it or change course if it doesn't work (which you are asking about). It should never be that you are paying with expectation of college outcomes or to have a school that jumps at every need. Very few people will get traction at a school saying "we deserve X because we pay so much". (I'm not accusing you of this...just saying it in general).

Let's be honest - no school is perfect and no school environment is perfect. The reason I don't like our school is that they don't do a great job at caring about the kids and they assume every parent is unreasonable. I don't see this changing so I generally don't engage on those fronts.

At this point it seems like leaving would create a lot of instability for your children and I personally would want to avoid that. You already made a decision to pay for private to finish out to 12th. I think you'll be happier if you let the financial part go as a decision already made.

I wish you luck and am sorry about the other people here dumping on you.  (And I think it's hilarious that others are sure they know who you are - these people seem crazy to me) [/quote]

Odds are 1:3 they are right. It’s not quantitative physics here. Chances are it’s the particular Big 3 because two children are more likely than one child to be of different genders. Logic.

And also weird sentences. Could be wrong but only 2:3 odds.[/quote]

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