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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would say never.

But, if there is constant fighting, substance abuse, abuse or neglect of either the spouse or kids, then I would say don't worry about how old the kids are just get out.

If there are none of those issues but one or both spouses have been chronically unhappy for awhile and there doesn't seem to be resolution in sight and/or there is no sex happening then I'd say suck it up, make it work as best you can and hang in there until the kids are out of high school.  In other words, put your own happiness on hold for awhile so your kids lives aren't imploded.

Just my humble opinion.[/quote]

I think this is terrible advice but I say that as a divorced mother. I married my ex at 23, divorced at 27 when DD was 6 months old. We married for logical reasons (we got along, worked well together, similar values, but no real romantic or sexual chemistry on my end), and once I was pregnant, he realized that ours was not the model marriage he wanted our child to be raised among. So we divorced and co-parent now, we live two blocks away from each other, have 50/50 custody with lots of flexibility, and are both very active in each other's and our child's life. DD never knew another situation where we were married. I would think it's more traumatizing for a kid to think their parents are happy or together, and then to find out later it was an illusion.[/quote]

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