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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP back with a few points. The house we have rented for the past two summers is still available because we know the owners so they are holding it for us (they don’t rent it all summer, just here and there to friends). But I have looked and there are other larger houses in the area that still appear to be available.

I didn’t bring this up proactively with my in laws, they asked if we were planning to rent the house again when we were together with DH’s sister, which is why I threw out the idea of getting a bigger house. Am I thrilled about spending 2 weeks with everyone, no, but it would be fun for all the kids so I am willing to do it in a bigger place.

My in laws have just as much money as we do so they can absolutely afford it, they are just cheap.
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DH doesn’t like to “ruffle feathers” with his mom and sister and is willing to suck it up, but I am not[/b].[/quote]

DH is the one putting the work of entertaining and feeding on OP.  Of course it's easy for him to 'suck it up.'

You let them (this includes the DH) cross this boundary without any consequence.  They will continue to expect you to accommodate and not acknowledge it.
Something should be said so they understand not to take you for granted. Henceforth, future vacation shares can feel more equitable because if you don't nip this in the bud now, you are setting yourself up for continued freeloader usage.[/quote]

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