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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m pretty angry about this situation and have tried to let it go, but I just can’t and it’s eating me up.  DCUM, am I overreacting about this?

My partner is a ceo of a small(ish) company.  We have been together 7 years and have one child together (I have two others from previous marriage).

I work very part time but definitely don’t earn much.  He is for sure the breadwinner.  I haven’t actively been looking for a full time job however my financial situation is very unstable as we aren’t married so I’m not sure what would happen if we are no longer together.

[b]Originally (years ago) he told me he couldn’t hire me to work at his company because I’m responsible for getting the kids to school pick them up and take them to activities. [/b]

Fast forward to 2 months ago, when he hired three new full time employees out of the blue.  I had no idea he was hiring (or I would have applied).  One of the employees he brought on was more of a higher level manager but another one he told me was a marketing associate.  I asked him why he hadn’t told me about the job and he said I needed a marketing course.  Turns out all she’s doing now is administrative work and I could definitely have done that.  My thought is if I’m capable of doing the work, why would he hire a random person over me, when he knows I need all the benefits and security for the future?

Basically I’m angry because he chose someone other than me when he knows I have no real job security or retirement savings.  He hasn’t included me in discussions of planning for the future so I’m very clueless as to what will happen.

Is that mean and unkind of him or am I way off base here?[/quote]

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OP, you should have discussed your job and financial stability back when he told you (and you agreed?) to take a back seat and take care of the kids. You cannot fix the past and it is a bad idea to get a job at his company. That is not your biggest issue. Being able to work is. Are you able to look for a full time job elsewhere now, or [b]are you still tied up because of taking care of kids?[/b] Figure out that first. [/quote]

And if this is the case, change it. It makes you too vulnerable. It makes sense for you to be the one responsible because you don't make the money, but you can't make any money if you are the one responsible. Hopefully this experience will allow you to see that he does not have your best interests at heart, so you will have to take care of yourself. [/quote]

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