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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m very fair skinned, freckled and of Irish heritage. DH is olive complexioned with Native American ancestry. We had so many fun conversations while expecting DC - most particularly about what skin color our baby might have. It became a family discussion point and then when she was born, an ongoing debate - which parent does DC most resemble?

We now have 3DC and only our youngest is as almost as fair skinned as I am. We are a rainbow of colors and we are Caucasian. Oldest has has a perpetually sun tanned look with darker hair, middle has auburn hair and pink tone and freckles and youngest has peaches and cream with nearly white blond hair.[/quote]

Okay, so dreamily wondering about skin color and whether your child will have your green eyes and his tan skin is not the same at all as hoping that your child does NOT have Negroid features because their life will be easier, they will fit into Western standards of beauty and you have internalized self-hate. [/quote]

+1  I'm a natural curly red head/freckled blue eyed woman who married into a Bolivian family.  DH and I never discussed (or cared) what color our kids' skin color would be.  My ILs discussed it a lot.  They were so proud of being 'Spanish' and white - although my MIL said she was called 'dark' because her siblings had lighter skin.  Turns out, their DNA is 75%+ indigenous Andean/ 10% African.  They have internalized the racism of their colonizers.  Skin color was very important to them because the less they looked like the indigenous people, the more superior they were.  They were also surprised that I didn't have any African DNA because they were sure curly hair was an African trait.

Given the racist history of the British royal family, I have no doubt the musings about the baby's skin color was not innocent.  At the very least, they should have had some self-awareness to know that's how it would be taken even if that wasn't their intention.[/quote]

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