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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some betrayed spouses can't wait to tell their young kids how "bad" the other parent was during the marriage. They say it's *just being honest!1!* but that's total BS -- they want to punish their cheating spouse and will use ANY means, including harming the innocent kids, to do so. It's evil. You're ruining the kids' perception of their parent forever.

Your spouse cheated on YOU, not the kids. If you tell the kids that your DH cheated, be prepared for the DH to tell them that Mommy was a frigid wench who withheld sex for months and made the marriage unbearable. Mommy's unapologetic and vengeful behavior will be proof of her insanity.

Don't dump your marriage/divorce issues on your kids. Just don't. There's no excuse. Keep the kids out of it.[/quote]

And being vengeful isn’t a great parenting look, no doubt. I think most people believe kids should be told in an age-appropriate way, and only if they ask, because whether or not you believe a spouse cheated on the kids, that spouses behavior did result in the breakup of the kids home.

Certainly, if asked, a parent could say in an age-appropriate way “we got divorced because mommy didn’t want to have sex as much as I wanted to have sex” but I’m not sure that paints the parent in a great light either— you’re basically telling the kids they were less important to you than the regularity of intercourse. Saying things like “frigid wench” gets out of being factual and neutral.[/quote]

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