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[quote=lojack74][quote=SDC][quote=lojack74][quote=novasoccer15324]If you want yelling coaches on the girls side, just go to Maryland. From my experience most of the worst offenders of yelling girls coaches in northern VA have been flushed out, aged out, or moved on.[/quote]
Or FCV United South. Not sure about now, but that effer would berate his players to tears and humiliation.

God, whoever made the comment about "hard nose coaching"! It's like this country isn't in the midst of the worst mental health epidemic we've ever seen, and fools like this are a large part of that problem.[/quote]

Do you think maybe, just maybe it could be partially due to the lockdowns and hysteria over the last few years?  Or maybe that since folks can't lose (e.g., everyone gets a trophy) these days and didn't learn how to handle rejection/loss in the little things in life and grow from that.....and somehow are expected to handle the big ones when real life comes at them?[/quote]

Not sure what you're trying to address with the lockdown comment. Our current mental health crisis? That's just myopic. I know too any people that work closely with children of all ages to think that this is recent. When I've spoken to people that have moved here from abroad, the first thing they pointed out was how bad the state of our mental health is compared to most other countries they've been to/lived in.

And the whole participation trophy argument carries little weight for me with regards to my comment about hard-nosed coaching, but possibly because that's a big grey area. Today, children and parents both need to learn to cope better, yes. But that also applies to coaches; they are not immune to the need to learn to cope when things don't go their way. That in no way absolves them from berating players. At all. If coaches want kids to learn to cope with disappointment, and not getting their way, they should model it. Getting/acting furious with a player that isn't listening, or not comitting the coaches lesson to their play isn't hard-nosed coaching. That's literally acting out, and doing exactly what your comment is inferring only kids do.

In short, coaches should never, ever be a part of the problem with a kids mental health. And before someone drops the whole "well coaches are people, too, and they are going through stuff to", nope. Do we bring our own personal life issues to work and take them out on coworkers? No professional should do that. No coach should do that. No excuse for an adult to do that. We see children do that, sure, because they are children and still learning. Coaches should know better. There is just no excuse for mistreatment of players by their coaches.

There is such a ridiculously pervasive lack of perspective in youth sports, where parents and coaches alike all think they're dealing with the next great thing. If they yell a little louder, or make the kid feel a little worse for not trying harder, or for missing a shot or tackle, they can say "yup, I did that" when that kid is on a big international stage. Or they act like whatever game their watching/coaching is, in fact, a world cup game. It's not. Get a grip.[/quote]

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